Kit’s Story – Getting Real In Biz And Motherhood
It’s no secret that motherhood can be overwhelming, but add on running a business and you have a challenging world full of pressure, elation, happiness, guilt, pride and a million more emotions…
In the world we live in, being portrayed as a mother on social media can carry quite a burden – having to always look and act the part, but in reality it can be quite the opposite.
As a team of mums who support each other in business and in life, we decided to sit down and answer some Q+A’s all about how we really feel with this juggling act we call #bossmumlife.
Here’s PART FIVE through the eyes of working mothers…
Kit (Owner Wise Photography, Mum to Indigo 6 and Jagger 3)
“I have so many capable women around me, I think we all get strength from each other.”
What do you believe are the pro’s and con’s of being self employed and having kids?
The obvious pro of being self employed is that you can set your own hours around the kids, the con of this is that I tend to work longer hours at night when everybody is asleep, compromising on my rest time.
What are your tips for self motivation/banishing procrastination if you are overly tired/stressed from kids?
Make sure you give yourself some time out and DON’T feel guilty. If I have a client who cancels so I have the day free I’ll often just take the day and do a half day of editing but use the rest however I want!
Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other mums?
Not really, I get inspired by other mums mostly, we are all so different and there are so many different pressures it’s hard to compare.
Do you feel pressure to over achieve as a mum/career woman and ‘have it all’?
Absolutely, I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Do you experience mum guilt when you have to pick your kids up or have kids around and you have to answer calls? Do you tell clients the truth or lie about what you are doing?
It’s not ideal is it, because as soon as you pick up the phone you know they’ll need something urgently like a cookie or have something terrible happen to them like the internet isn’t working… hahaha… but my clients usually can hear them so there is no point in lying – I try to do most correspondence by email.
How has having a business partner in the same situation helped the changes of becoming a working mum?
I have so many capable women around me doing the same thing, I think we all get strength from each other seeing each other succeed.
Were you excited to get back to work after maternity leave or had anxiety?
Sooooooooo happy to go back to my own work, also terrified that my own business would fail rather than working for someone else which was safer.
How did you cope becoming a mum for the first/second time and putting kids as first priority over career?
I’m lucky to have an incredible support network around me, my husband is amazing with the kids and my mum is always there for me so they’ve always helped me through any tricky situations. I will always put my kids first.
What advice can you give to other mums – whether they work for themselves, for someone else or are thinking of starting work again?
Having a work life and a home life I think is essential to keep you sane, however it will be daunting leaving baby for the first time. I do think if you can take a year then definitely take it, they grow up so quickly, they really do!
Do you feel if you put more real content on social media of being a mum, that clients would view you as not ‘as motivated’?
I’m shocking at social media however in my line of work I think people would like to see more of me rather than my pics sometimes, so can go either way.
What positive changes have you found in yourself/your business partner since becoming mothers, that can help you day to day with clients?
Well before I had kids I had no idea how to handle newborns, bribe children with lollies or what my maternity and family mamas were going through. It’s given me more confidence than I could have imagined, hell if you can take on a teething newborn and a potty training toddler you can do anything!
(Fill in the blanks) – Working mums should know that…
It’s ok to drink lots of wine, just wait till after school pick up!