It’s no secret that motherhood can be overwhelming, but add on running a business and you have a challenging world full of pressure, elation, happiness, guilt, pride and a million more emotions…
In the world we live in, being portrayed as a mother on social media can carry quite a burden – having to always look and act the part, but in reality it can be quite the opposite.
As a team of mums who support each other in business and in life, we decided to sit down and answer some Q+A’s all about how we really feel with this juggling act we call #bossmumlife.
Here’s PART SIX through the eyes of working mothers…
Natasha (Owner Oscar&Ivy Bridal and Married By Tash, Mum to Oscar 2)
“I try and live in the now as much as I can, set my goals and stay focused.”
- What do you believe are the pro’s and con’s of being self employed and having kids?
The flexibility and you can live your own work-life balance.
- What are your tips for self motivation/banishing procrastination if you are overly tired/stressed from kids?
Have a break for 5 minutes, go for a walk get out of the house, or take the kids to the park. Then, get back into work mode.
- Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other mums?
No, I am my own individual and we create our own future.
- Do you feel pressure to over achieve as a mum/career woman and ‘have it all’?
Not really, I try and live in the now as much as I can, set my goals and stay focused. If I go off track one week, I just have to get back on track the following week!
- Do you experience mum guilt when you have to pick your kids up or have kids around and you have to answer calls? Do you tell clients the truth or lie about what you are doing?
I take the call, and let them know my son is in the background, or if it is more of a serious call, I’ll organise to call them back in a half hour when the children are not running around crazy!
- How has having a business partner in the same situation helped the changes of becoming a working mum?
My husband and I both have our own businesses and we both get it – if your kids get sick, or you are drained from sleep deprivation the other one can pick up the slack. We bounce off each other and stay positive!
- Were you excited to get back to work after maternity leave or had anxiety?
Excited! It’s good to get the brain stimulated and step out of mum zone for 5 minutes!
- How did you cope becoming a mum for the first/second time and putting kids as first priority over career?
We planned our baby so I got my head in the right mindset and just enjoyed it! Of course the sleepless nights were a killer, but they are only little for a short period of a time.
- What advice can you give to other mums – whether they work for themselves, for someone else or are thinking of starting work again?
Go back slowly, even if it’s part time after the first year to ease back into it, that way you will enjoy it more!
- Do you feel if you put more real content on social media of being a mum, that clients would view you as not ‘as motivated’?
Not really, I think people like to see the truth, however I choose to keep my business page and personal page very separate.
- What positive changes have you found in yourself/your business partner since becoming mothers, that can help you day to day with clients?
My business partner Yasmin and I are both very positive individuals – we love what we do, and I don’t mind when she brings her little one to the boutique as its extra cuddles for me!
- (Fill in the blanks) – Working mums should know that…
You are amazing! Being a mother is a full time job, so anything over that is truly incredible!